At the mention of orgasms, many people instantly think of having a full-body shaking experience with volcanic-like releases as they shout, “Yes, yes, yes!’
Adult movies and porn culture might have made this seem like the absolute truth ad expectation for a lot of people, but in reality, that’s not what the Big O or climaxing is all about. Just like each individual is different, our orgasms are also different.
Here, we’ll look at what are orgasms and the different types of orgasms, plus orgasm techniques to help you achieve this most sought-after pleasure in the bedroom.
Note: There is no specific way that having an orgasm must feel like. So, instead of focusing on having an orgasm like someone else, how about you relax and enjoy those moments, allowing your body to guide you and feel pleasure naturally?
What are Orgasms?
In the simplest terms, orgasms are the peak of sexual pleasure, a reason they are also known as climaxing. While many people only associate orgasms with a physical release, it involves much more.
Primarily, the brain and nervous system work together to create this unique, pleasurable experience. The brain plays its role by stimulating the release of neurotransmitters, leading to heightened sensitivity of our erogenous zones and, when stimulated to the right levels, causes rhythmic contractions (majorly on the pelvic muscles), increased heart rate, and a burst of feel-good hormones such as dopamine, oxytocin, and endorphins.
For some people this experience is an intense electric-like feel of currents running throughout their entire bodies. Still, others get to experience a gentler wave of pleasure that leaves them with a great feeling of satisfaction.
Remember, there is no right or wrong way to experience orgasms. Just like any other aspect of your sexual activities, the best way to achieve the Big O is to know your body and what feels good or works for you.
Female Orgasms
Talks of orgasms almost always revolve around female orgasms, for mostly the right reasons. After all, for too long, sex between couples in traditional societies was, in many instances, too one-sided.
Times have changed, and with more knowledge of sexual pleasure, the realization that there are different types of female orgasms. Here are the most common types:
Clitoral Orgasm
There is no doubt that the clitoris is the ultimate pleasure organ, fully armed with over 8,000 nerve endings. Under the right stimulation, this small yet powerful organ can enable you to experience a clitoral orgasm, which is often described as a sharp, intense, and localized sensation that can be very mild or extremely powerful.
To achieve this orgasm, you need to find the right kind of stimulation for your body by discovering and guiding your partner on the most suitable pressure, speed, and motion. For some women, this pleasure is best achieved through oral sex as the tongue, the licking, and the sucking create the best kind of pleasure.
For others, rubbing the clitoris in a repetitive motion up-and-down, circular, or side-to-side motion with the right kind of pressure is super effective. Using a clit-sucking vibrator is also a perfect way to get over the edge and achieve this female orgasm, whether through solo play or when having mad fun with your partner.
G-Spot Orgasm
G-spot orgasms are a deeper and more internal type of female orgasm. You can achieve this type of orgasm by targeting the G-spot, a sweet spot located some 2-3 inches inside the vagina on the front wall. Often, it is accompanied by female ejaculation.
You can achieve a G-spot orgasm during deep, angled penetration through positions such as doggy style. Fingerplays can also do the trick by applying the right kind of pressure to the G-spot. A more fun way is to include curved dildos and G-spot or bullet vibrators in your bedroom plays.
A-Spot Orgasm
If you like deeper penetration and steady pressure, A-Spot orgasm will be your sweet pleasure. This sweet spot is located deeper than the G-spot and is best targeted with a curved sex toy with some good vibration.
Females who have achieved this type of orgasm often describe it as a toe-curling experience, thanks to the strong waves it sends through the body.
Full-Body Orgasm
Full-body orgasms are a more profound kind of orgasms that extend beyond localized pleasure. These orgasms peak with a full-body release through a wave-like sensation that runs from your head to your toes.
You really need to be in the moment and understand how your body goes through different stages of arousal to achieve this mind-blowing orgasm. As many sex experts agree, the secret extra is to have your body and mind fully relaxed. You should also gradually build arousal rather than simply rushing toward climaxing. Typically, this involves having intense stimulation followed by periods of rest, allowing the pleasure to spread throughout the body before peaking with a full-body orgasm.
Using deep penetrative toys designed for cervical stimulation and those with powerful vibrations, such as the magic wand massager, is a great way to achieve intense stimulation and build pleasure for this type of orgasm.
Blended Orgasm
Blended orgasm is achieved when you stimulate multiple erogenous zones at the same time; the most common way is by stimulating your clitoris and G-spot.
It’s a powerful way of having the best of both worlds by combining the pleasures of clitoral stimulation with deep, internal stimulation.
For this type of orgasm, rabbit or dual-stimulation sex toys will come in handy as they can easily target the two erogenous zones simultaneously. Alternatively, you can use a clit-sucking toy while your partner focuses on penetration at a position that gets your G-spot well-stimulated.
Breast/Nippe Orgasm
Some females also get to experience breast or nipple orgasms, as these are major erogenous zones that can be stimulated in various ways. For others, these orgasms can be achieved without contact with the genitals, while for some, it’s the simultaneous stimulation of these parts plus the genitals that leads to an exciting orgasm.
Anal Orgasm
Since orgasms are caused by the contraction of pelvic floor muscles, anal play or sex can equally lead to an orgasm. For some, stimulating the nerves and muscles of this erogenous zone is a sure way to climax.
Male Orgasms
Males also experience orgasms, and the most common types are:
Penile Orgasm
The most straightforward orgasm for males is penile orgasm which comes from stimulation and culminates in ejaculation. Whether through sex with a partner or solo play, there are orgasm techniques to increase the sensation of climaxing or releasing.
These include; edging, where you bring yourself close to orgasm before backing off, and taking a short break before starting again.
The most common type of male orgasm comes from penile stimulation, typically culminating in ejaculation. These orgasms are generally localized to the genital area, creating intense sensations that peak quickly and then subside. Another technique is to use different stimulation pressure and speed, which can be enhanced with vibrating sex toys.
Prostate Orgasm
There is a reason why the prostrate is also referred to as the male G-spot. The strategic location of this small organ some 2-3 inches inside the rectum, makes it the perfect spot for intense stimulation and a full-body sensation or release.
The prostrate is best targeted using a finger or prostrate toy. It’s located toward the belly button, and you’ll know you’ve reached it when you feel a firm, rounded part that is sensitive to stimulation.
Full-Body Orgasm
Men can also experience full-body orgasms, and just like women, these orgasms are felt in the entire body.
It takes a lot of practice and knowing your body to achieve this type of orgasm, as it requires the perfect body and mind stimulation. Some orgasm techniques to focus on include; regulating breathing, controlling ejaculating and energy flows, and your pelvic floor controls.
It can also call for combining the different types of stimulation that you like, such as penile stimulation and prostrate massage or nipple stimulation.
Common Myths About Orgasms
In an age where there are so many exaggerations about orgasms and so much focus on achieving them, there are many misconceptions going around. As discussed in this article, orgasms are unique to an individual, and there are so many factors that influence how you experience this sexual pleasure. These include stress, anxiety, lack of proper foreplay, and failing to pay attention or listen to your body.
Here are some of the most common myths that you must never let get into your mind:
Myth 1: You always need to orgasm during sex/Something is wrong if you don’t orgasm
These statements can’t be further from the truth as they oversimplify the value and impact of orgasms. Instead of focusing on these myths that only take your focus from enjoying sex, you need to focus on enjoying these special moments and discovering what gives you the most pleasure.
Myth 2: Orgasms are all about good physical stimulation.
When it comes to sexual pleasure, the brain and our ‘general state’ play as big a role in achieving orgasm as what we get to do. Therefore, simply focusing on better or more powerful stimulation to reach orgasm is not the way to have this experience. Keep it fun and stress-free, taking it as an adventure where you first get to discover your body and your partners, with orgasms being a plus.
Myth3: All orgasms have to be intense/ You have to squirt
As we’ve explored in this article, there are different types of orgasms, and they come with different sensations, intensities, and durations.
For females, squirting orgasm, which has been popularized by over-the-top performances in adult films, has been made to seem like the standard, but this isn’t the truth. On the contrary, female ejaculation or release during orgasm is more often a small amount of thick, whitish fluid.
Conclusion
In the world of sexual pleasure, orgasms are given a lot of attention as everyone wants to experience that ultimate feeling of pleasure. But since there are so many types of orgasms with countless variations, you don’t have to be stuck pursuing that toe-curling, body-shaking experience when you can enjoy unique and more satisfying waves of pleasure.
Forget about the norm and take your own adventure where you are not afraid to explore your body and enjoy your desires. As you do this, experiencing orgasms will be exciting encounters that you don’t force; rather, become open to experiencing them.