There is no doubt about it, vibrators are one of the most powerful sex toys and are a great addition for almost everyone. It doesn’t matter whether you are one to enjoy those solo explorations or looking for a plus to spice things up with a partner, vibrators are a choice you can’t go wrong with.
Diving into the world of vibrators should be exciting and since you need to get it right, this guide will help unravel the best practices of how to use vibrators. Let’s dive in.
The Versatility of Vibrators
Vibrators are the ultimate pleasure partners. It doesn’t matter your gender or the kind of stimulation you are into, there is a vibrator for everyone.
The magical touch of these adult toys is that they are able to do much more, thanks to the waves of vibration that they use to provide a unique kind of stimulation. Today, most vibrators are designed to offer a specific kind of stimulation, and this should be a primary focus when choosing a vibrator.
Types of Vibrators & Their Sensations
As mentioned above, the secret to choosing the right vibrator is to pick one that offers the kind of stimulation that best suits your sexual interests and needs. Here are some popular options:
- Bullet Vibrators ~ Famous for their convenient palm sizes, these discreet toys are one of the most perfect beginner-friendly vibrators. They are great for nipple and clitoral stimulation, while guys can use them to stimulate the frenulum (the sensitive underside where the shaft meets the head).
- Wand Massagers ~ These are mega powerhouses that provide deep, powerful vibrations. They can be used on many parts of the body for deep tissue massage and as a beginner you need to be extra soft when using them on sensitive areas such as genitals.
- Rabbit vibrators ~ These vibrators are designed to offer the best of both worlds for those who want a single toy for external and internal pleasure.
- G-Spot/P-Spot Vibrators ~ If you get maximum pleasure from internal exploration, the G-Spot/P-Spot vibrators are the perfect pick for those steamy sessions.
- Anal Vibrators ~ If you love some backdoor fun, then anal vibrators offer the best kind of stimulation for anal pleasure and orgasms.
- Air-Pressure Toys ~ Do you prefer a vibrator that offers a unique kind of clitoral stimulation, almost similar to receiving some good head or oral sex? Air pressure toys are built for this and have a suction system that offers these stimulations without the extra sensation of traditional vibrators.
- Wearable Vibrators ~ Couples using vibrators often find the wearable vibrator to be great for their plays as most use an app that a partner gets to control. They are also great for those discreet and handsfree plays.
- Cock Rings or Penis Vibrators ~ Whether you are looking for a masturbation tool or love some penis stimulation, cock rings/penis vibrators will offer you the best kind of pleasure.
How to Use Vibrators Like A Pro
Begin with Some Teasing
When it comes to solo play with vibrators, most beginners make the mistake of wanting to attain maximum pleasure as fast as possible. On the contrary, a good sexual experience, especially where adult toys like vibrators are used, you never need to go from 0 to 100 in a few minutes.
The unwritten rule is to go slow, and if you think you’re going too slow, go even slower.
This is because you need your body to build arousal and be ready for a new kind of stimulation. So, start with some slow teasing that can involve running your hands or the turned-off vibrator over your favorite places, be it inner thighs, nipples, or other erogenous zones.
Once you are well stimulated, turn on the vibrator, ensuring it’s on the lowest setting, and keep teasing yourself. Enjoy these new sensations in different places such as your breast, neck, inner thigh, and area around the belly button, to build anticipation as much as possible. One of the best tricks is to slowly approach your vagina or anus and then retreat to other pleasurable areas.
Start The Exploration
Once you are fully aroused and your body is ready for these sensations in those sensitive erogenous zones, you can start the exploration.
Slowly start with some circular or up-and-down motions around the clitoris while avoiding placing the tip directly on the clitoris or pressing hard (the lighter the pressure, the better). Remember, your clitoris has thousands of nerve endings, and those soft vibrations (don’t turn up the vibration settings yet) are more than enough to give you a lot of pleasure.
Let your body enjoy this new experience while paying attention to how the vibrator feels on different parts of the clitoris or vulva. If the vibrations feel too intense, you can dampen the vibrations by using your vibrator over underwear or a thin towel.
Step It Up Once You Are Ready
Light stimulation above the clitoris or vulva will make you feel extra good, bring out some good moans, and help you discover the most sensitive parts.
However, if this stimulation is still not enough and your body wants more, you can take things to a new level. You can slightly increase the vibration settings and focus on heightening pleasure.
You can also increase the pressure as you put back the vibrator for a stronger stimulation. For the best experience, avoid pressing the vibrator hard or turning up the vibration setting too high.
Also, if the stimulation feels too strong, turn it back to the low settings and enjoy the exploration rather than rushing things.
Add Some Internal Play
If your vibrator is built for internal use, you can go ahead and enjoy some internal play. By now, you’ll already be aroused, but don’t overlook the importance of having lube and using plenty of it.
Also, don’t rush to insert the entire vibrator. Take things slow and begin by inserting just an inch, and allow your body to feel these new sensations. You can then play around with the angles to find those sweet spots, and one of the best vibrator techniques is to angle the tips toward the belly button to get to that G-spot and stimulate it.
If your vibrator is not meant for internal use, you can enjoy some internal play by introducing another sex toy, such as a dildo, or enjoying some finger play.
Using Vibrators as A Couple
Vibrators are not just a top pick for solo play or masturbation, they are equally great for partnered play. If you are first-timers, it’s essential that you and your partner have a conversation about these fun additions, so you both know what to expect and not view it as a replacement.
The good news is that there are many fun ways to use a vibrator as a couple for mutual satisfaction and better sexual experiences, including:
- Enhancing Foreplay. You can easily include vibrators in your foreplay as these third wheels are perfect teasers. For example, you can take turns teasing each other by running the vibrator over each other’s bodies while you still have some clothes on.
- Sensory Play. Vibrators come in handy for sensory play as they can be used all over the body to build anticipation and arousal. You can blindfold your partner and use the vibrator on various parts of the body while constantly adjusting the vibration settings for greater sensations.
- Role-Play. You can include a vibrator in so many role-play scenarios, so as to spice things up. For example, it can be a nurse or doctor and patient scenario where the vibrator is used as an examination tool.
- For exciting penetration. Just because a partner is penetrating doesn’t mean that you can continue using a vibrator. You can still hold the vibrator on the clitoris to enjoy these two sensations at a go, and with the right pressure, you will have mind-blowing orgasms. Your partner will also feel and love the stimulation from the vibrator, leading to deeper and stronger thrusts.
Advanced Dildo Techniques
Once you have mastered the basics of using a dildo and can enjoy these new sensations without any pressure, you can level up with advanced dildo techniques such as:
- Edging ~This is where you use a vibrator to build arousal until you are about to orgasm, and then pause suddenly. You then get to rest for about 30 seconds and repeat the process, stopping just before you orgasm. You repeat this a few times, it will build to a huge and powerful orgasm that will leave you fully satisfied.
- Temperature Play ~This is where you add the extra sensation of temperature contrast with those vibrations for a unique sexual experience. You can warm your vibrator in hot water or cool it in ice water or the refrigerator (not freezer) before use. Remember, it’s important to pay attention to the manufacturer’s instructions as not all vibrators are suitable for temperature plays.
- Pattern Surfing ~ This is where you get to heighten sensations, especially when you are approaching orgasm, by switching through the multiple vibration patterns that your vibrator has. The typical approach is to start with a low, steady vibration before switching it up during peak arousal and then surfing through the different patterns just before climax.
- The Sandwich Technique ~This dildo technique involves placing your vibrator between your labia but not directly on your clitoris and then gently pressing your thighs together for some pressure. It’s a great way to enjoy indirect stimulation and also to try different stimulation.
The Golden Rules for Using Vibrators
Don’t Just Focus on Orgasm
Most beginners make the mistake of pressurizing themselves to achieve orgasm when using sex toys. This must not be the case; instead, take this pressure off yourself and approach this like an adventure where you appreciate and enjoy those little details.
It’s for this reason that the rule – go slow is mandatory. When you take things slow, you get to enjoy those low vibrations and give your body enough time to adjust to these new sensations.
Try new positions, use the vibrator on different parts of the body, and avoid the temptation to force yourself to attain sexual pleasure when you are not ready. If the mood is right and you are well aroused, orgasm becomes that huge extra plus.
Get Beginner-Friendly Vibrators and Enough Lube
Your choice of vibrator is extremely important. Go for beginner-friendly vibrators that have very low vibration settings and are easy to handle. These toys should also be made of body safe, non-porous materials such as silicone and for greater flexibility during usage they should be waterproof.
After choosing the right vibrator, don’t forget to buy enough lube as you’ll always need lubrication for enjoyable experiences, regardless of how aroused you’ll be.
You can then work your way up over time by first getting accustomed to the sensations of these low vibration settings and enjoying different dildo techniques before considering more powerful toys or higher vibration settings.
If you are into anal play, ensure you get special anal vibrators that have flared based and are approved for beginners to avoid unwanted risks.
Pain is A Big No!!!
There is no room for experiencing pain when you are using vibrators. The moment you start feeling discomfort or pain, stop using the toy immediately.
You should avoid the false hope that your body will adjust to the discomfort or pain, and things will get better. Instead, focus on how you are using the toy and your mood since these directly impact your level of arousal, plus the kind of pleasure you get to experience.
Less is more when it comes to vibrators, and the moment you can enjoy these new sensations without being tempted to turn up the settings, you’ll have great experiences.
Properly Clean and Store Your Vibrator
How you clean and store your sex toys is as important as how you use them. It’s highly recommended that you invest in specially formulated toy cleaners or stick to using warm water and mild soap to clean your vibrators after use.
If your toy is not waterproof, avoid soaking it in water and use a damp cloth with soap to clean it. After your toy is properly cleaned, dry it with a clean cloth and store it in a safe space. You can buy special storage pouches for your sex toys and store them with their charging cables so they don’t get lost.
Conclusion
While there is no specific vibrator technique that works for everyone, the proven approach is to take things slow, experiment with different sensations, and let your body guide you. Whether you are into solo play with vibrators or couples using vibrators, don’t forget the goal is to have fun and enjoy the journey rather than rushing things, expecting a happy ending.
Be relaxed, take deep breaths, ensure you are in the right mood, and experiment as much as possible, mastering how to enjoy those new sensations as much as possible. In the end, it’s these explorations that will give you the greatest pleasure, and those orgasms will just be a huge plus.